The story speaks to the ardently different lives of the two brothers, and the father’s complete love and acceptance of each and their differing lifestyles. Watch the movie again, it should all come together near the end with the father in the pulpit expressing “We can love completely what we cannot completely understand.” referring to the ones sons dark side and subsequent death and his own inability to help him.
February 28, 2015 at 11:43 pm
Each one of us here today will at one time in our lives look upon a loved one who is in need and ask the same question: We are willing help, Lord, but what, if anything, is needed? For it is true, we can seldom help those closest to us. Either we don’t know what part of ourselves to give or, more often than not, the part we have to give is not wanted. And so it those we live with and should know who elude us. But we can still love them – we can love completely without complete understanding.
This is one of the last movies I saw in the theatre with my younger brother. It was after the death of our grandfather who was married to the CS practitioner (my grandmother). He had a secret life and as a result they had my grandfather erased after his death. Perhaps this is dedicated to my brother and grandfather. He was a fly fisherman, engineer for U.S. Steel and a well loved man. Love wins.
Unconditional love—no ifs about it
From the September 4, 2006 issue of the Christian Science Sentinel
I think it’s important to ask yourself how you define your neighbor—your spouse, your child, your boss, your colleague. Is your definition material, or spiritual? You may think this is difficult when you see imperfections—unlovable qualities. But when we see ourselves as wedded to Love, we think in terms of ideas, not matter. What is the idea that you have set up as a husband, wife, or neighbor? It’s important to remember that you are wedded to your own concept and to hold your loved ones in consciousness as inherently good and spiritual. Mrs. Eddy shed some light on this when she wrote, “Jesus beheld in Science the perfect man [you could substitute husband, wife, neighbor], who appeared to him where sinning, mortal man appears to mortals” (ibid., pp. 476–477). This correct view of man heals anything—because it draws on unconditional love.
In a true sense of love, you never give away your dominion. You are never tempted to say, “If only my husband or wife would change, then I would be happy.” By setting up a condition, you fall into the trap of thinking something material can govern your happiness. You never need to replace your innate inclination to love with anger, hatred, or violence. And fortunately, each of us has the divine right and the privilege to be always in control of our emotions. But sometimes we have to work on it.
Expressing unconditional love rules out the possibility of disease, because love is never in conflict. Disease, on the other hand, inevitably involves some sort of conflict. For instance, cancer in its simplest form is a belief of a battle between good cells and bad cells in the body. I have seen when a person’s thought is calmed and they’re no longer angry, they then experience physical healing. It’s the unconditional cleanliness and purity of love that heals. Just like when you see a pond that’s calm and still, reflecting perfectly the landscape around it. If you throw in a rock, it destroys the pond’s ability to reflect. Our consciousness is similar. We cannot throw in the rocks of anger, hatred, anxiety, regret, distrust. If we entertain these thoughts in consciousness, we destroy our ability to reflect. So it’s important always to refute the idea that there can be conflict of any kind in our bodies, or, for that matter, in the world. We can always choose to love—not the evil or diseased person—but the person of God’s creating.
Unconditional love is a two-way street. It’s “… Love … reflected in love” (ibid., p.17). When Love is “wedded to its own spiritual idea,” then we can experience the marriage feast—all the fruits that come when we commit our lives to loving God supremely. We can experience the abundant good God is giving us each moment, right now. And there won’t be any strings attached.