Saturday Evening with My Students, J.K. Rowling and Some Valuable Lessons Learned – Give Generously to Get Generously.

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Video Below – Alternate Ending to “Titanic”

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If you pay attention, the music is the same as the first time Leo and Fabrizio stand on the bow and ‘fly’… it’s meant to evoke the same feeling of freedom that Jack felt, because he had finally let the diamond ‘go’, and was able to live in the moment. Yes this scene didn’t work overall in the context of the final edit, but I think it’s still a well executed scene.
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J.K Rowling – Harvard Commencement Speech

 

So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realised, and I was still alive, … and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.

Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above the price of rubies.

The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more than any qualification I ever earned.

J.K. Rowling

http://harvardmagazine.com/2008/06/the-fringe-benefits-failure-the-importance-imagination

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The couple below are students and fiancees who invited me to their upcoming wedding.  I was moved to the core by their sincere gratitude and love expressed for our time together in the class room as well as learning about the English language and life.

I will miss them all and would have taught them for free.

Thank you for today, God.

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Am I willing to serve my neighbor and my community as a Christian Scientist? Fresh Ideas with Virginia Harris, CSB and Former President Obama.

 

“Our Christian Science branch church recently closed because we focused on us and not our community”.

Attendee, Midwest Church Alive 2014

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Everybody is listening to people who already agree with them and are further and further reinforcing their own realities to the neglect of a common reality that allows us … to find a common ground to move solutions  forward. There is a lot more that people have in common than divides them.

The only folks who are going to be able to solve that problem are the young people, the next generation … tolerant, thoughtful.  What are ways to get them involved … and knock down barriers to get the next generation involved.

Former President Obama at first public event since leaving office

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“No church, or society, or informal group, is left out.”

Fujiko Signs, CSB

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Published on Apr 24, 2017
Former President Barack Obama is speaking publicly for the first time since leaving the White House. Watch Obama’s full speech at the University of Chicago.

Fresh Ideas

Virginia Harris, CSB

Lives are healed and regenerated as people more fully understand Mrs. Eddy’s motive for prayer when she says, “True prayer is not asking God for love; it is learning to love, and to include All mankind in one affection.”3

Members of local churches are also finding creative, healing ways to expand their involvement in the community. An experience from First Church, Farmington, New Mexico, relates how the Sunday School teachers decided to invite public schoolteachers to participate in three monthly inspirational meetings. The schools’ teachers formed a panel to identify major challenges being faced in the classroom. The meeting educated church members, and their prayers became specific in support of schoolteachers and students. Gains in the school system were evident through greater order and discipline, as well as improvements in the actual structure. Wasn’t it this branch’s willingness to look outward that enabled such a fresh idea to be put into action? And the real accomplishment was that the community was tangibly blessed. The church was also blessed as Sunday School teachers and students have grown both in numbers and spirituality.

This coming year, let’s continue to turn outward in a confident and consecrated way. We need to ask ourselves two questions: Am I willing to love my neighbor as myself? Am I willing to serve my neighbor and my community as a Christian Scientist?

Virginia Harris, C.S.B

From the September 1990 issue of The Christian Science Journal

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Partner of Slain French Policeman Gives Moving Eulogy at Paris Memorial

France Honors Xavier Jugelé, Police Officer Killed in Champs-Élysées Attack

The funeral of Xavier Jugelé in Paris on Tuesday. Officer Jugelé was killed during the terrorist attack on the Champs-Élysées last week. Credit Philippe Wojazer/Reuters

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PARIS — France paused from its intense focus on the presidential campaign on Tuesday to honor Xavier Jugelé, the veteran police officer who was shot and killed during a terrorist attack on the Champs-Élysées last week.

Officer Jugelé was remembered in a ceremony at Paris police headquarters that was attended by dozens of officials and hundreds of officers from around the globe, who heard a moving speech from his civil partner, Etienne Cardiles.

“I’d like to tell all those who are fighting to prevent events like these from happening that I understand their guilt and their feeling of failure and that they have to keep on fighting for peace,” Mr. Cardiles said.

In a reminder that the election was never far away, the two remaining candidates, Emmanuel Macron and Marine Le Pen, also attended, along with President François Hollande, the man they hope to replace.

Officer Jugelé, 37, was shot in the head on Thursday while at the wheel of a parked police van. He has been posthumously promoted and awarded the Legion of Honor. Two other police officers and a bystander were wounded in the attack.

In a personal and moving elegy, Mr. Cardiles described the man he loved in vivid terms. “You went to your job at 2 p.m. in the clothes that you wore when maintaining order, of which you took so much care,” he said. “I know you enjoyed this type of mission; I know, because it was the Champs” — meaning the Champs-Élysées — “and the image of France, because it was also culture that you were protecting.”

Mr. Cardiles then shifted to the night of the attack, saying that when he had heard there had been an attack on the Champs-Élysées and that a police officer had been killed, “A little voice inside told me that it was you.”

He addressed his companion’s killer, who was shot the night of the attacks, saying, “You will not have my hate.” This was an echo of the words of Antoine Leiris, the husband of one of the victims in the November 2015 attack on the Bataclan music hall in Paris, who wrote a book saying he would not be sucked into hatred of his wife’s killers.

President François Hollande of France spoke at the funeral on Tuesday. 

Mr. Cardiles closed his remarks by saying, “You will stay in my heart for always; I love you,” and then added as a sort of benediction: “May peace prevail; let us maintain peace.”

Mr. Hollande said that eight police officers and 14 military police officers had died on duty last year, and Officer Jugelé’s death brought the number of victims of terrorist attacks in France since the Charlie Hebdo attacks in January 2015 to 239. The country remains under the state of emergency imposed after the November 2015 attacks in around and Paris, which left 130 people dead.

“Once again, France has lost one of its bravest sons,” Mr. Hollande said. He added that the police had “become targets because of the uniform they wear,” noting the officers who were stabbed to death last year in an attack claimed by the Islamic State.

Mr. Hollande, who has recently said that he will support Mr. Macron in the vote on May 7, called on the two candidates to support his efforts to increase the size of France’s security forces, and told them that “perseverance and coherence” were expected, “rather than escalation and divisiveness.” Neither candidate spoke at the ceremony.

Ms. Le Pen and Mr. Macron both say they will hire more police officers: she has promised 15,000, and he 10,000.

 Emmanuel Macron, center, a French presidential candidate, also attended the ceremony honoring Officer Jugelé on Tuesday. Credit Bertrand Guay/Agence France-Presse — Getty Images

Ms. Le Pen, who said on Monday that she would temporarily step down as the head of the National Front to focus on the campaign, has said she would emphasize modernizing police equipment. Mr. Macron has promised to restore community police programs.

The two candidates differ vastly, however, on how the fight against terrorism should be waged.

Ms. Le Pen has placed it at the center of a battle to save, as she frames it, the soul of France, calling for strong borders and the deportation of foreigners who are on a terror watch list.

Mr. Macron, on the other hand, says he would strengthen security by working with the European Union while promoting an open, multiethnic society, urging the French people not to “give in to fear.”

Visiting the Rungis wholesale market outside Paris early Tuesday morning, Ms. Le Pen reaffirmed her protectionist agenda and denounced Mr. Macron for celebrating his first-round score at the Rotonde, an upscale brasserie in Paris.

“When Hollande calls for a vote for Macron, everyone wants to vote for Le Pen,” she said in a cheerful tone, referring to the president, who is deeply unpopular.

Mr. Macron’s campaign was off to a slower start, although polls have suggested that he is an overwhelming favorite. His team has announced plans for rallies this week in northern France, where Ms. Le Pen performed best in the first round of voting on Sunday.

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Hope – More than mere positive thinking by Tim Mitchinson, C.S.B/COP

 
“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness”.
(Isa. 41: 10)

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Take from a lie its power to deceive and it becomes nothing, for its very being depends upon its ability to mislead.  A lie must have two willing accessories – one who is willing to be deceived: one who is willing to deceive – the victimized and the victim; if either is wanting, the lie can do nothing.
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“Blue Book”  by Richard Oakes

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VIDEO – It is not “Hope” that people get stuck in but “hopelessness”.  Perhaps some people just don’t understand the definition of  hope which is active and includes a “belief and expectation” that you can do it.  It is showing up for the hard work such as prayer.  It also leads to and is part of understanding.  You don’t just discount this “hope” when you get to understanding because you don’t need it anymore.  Remember, hope is a good thing and the major weapon against suicide.

More than mere positive thinking

 

Positive thinking can be a great vehicle for getting through one’s day.  It can help one be more attentive, affectionate, cheerful and aware.  Co-workers would certainly prefer a positive thinker over a negative thinker.  The same is true for teachers, spouses, children and just about everyone.  But positive thinking has its limits – it deals with problems only on the surface, instead of getting to the root of them.

Some people may think of prayer as mere positive thinking – trying to make oneself feel better but not really changing anything.  Others think prayer is a blind faith that petitions a whimsical or uncertain God to do something for us, and hopes that He will do it.

I have found prayer to be something else.  I have found prayer to be a quest to find a logical and provable explanation of the power of God to heal.  In other words, I have found prayer to be scientific.

Scientific prayer does not ignore the world and its dangers but rather examines them very seriously.  This kind of prayer can actually heal the injustices, crimes and diseases that plague mankind.  It looks deeper than the surface of things – fear, bigotry, worry, sickness – and looks to God instead of the human mind for answers to life’s smallest and largest challenges.

Scientific prayer begins with God as only good.  It then examines the relationship between this good God and His creation, man and the universe.  If God is good, so must be His creation.  The Bible tells us in the book of Genesis that man is made in the image of this good and intelligent God.  As we strive to understand that each of us is the inheritor of God’s love, wisdom, intelligence, might and life, our lives change.  We develop more strength, courage, integrity and health.  This prayer is not only effective for oneself, but can also embrace the world and those we meet and love.  Scientific prayer can actually help us all feel that comforting, inspiring divine Love which heals our fears, worries and illnesses – mental and physical.

One night I received a call from a man I had known in the past.  He said he needed to talk with me.  I picked him up at the boarding house where he lived and took him to my office. It was rather late at night and we were the only ones on the floor that night.  He sat down, and when I did the same, he pulled out a gun and pointed it at me.

He asked me if I was afraid.  I was certainly concerned, but I was praying – silently asking God to help me understand that this man was God’s child as much as I was, and that both of us could feel this overpowering and unconditional divine Love right then and there.

The man proceeded to tell me about his irrational fears and his total inability to trust anyone.  I listened intently, but while I listened I knew with all my heart that deeper than those fears and irrationality was his innate goodness and composure as one of God’s children.  I prayed to understand that he had the intelligence God gives everyone.  At this point, he put the gun back into his pocket.

We stayed and talked for an hour.  I assured him that he, too, was created in the image and likeness of God, and that he could understand that about himself.  I told him that God was revealing to him his composure, peace, and joy because God loved him as one of His own children.  And that since God was divine Mind, God revealed this peaceful identity to him as his own thinking.  This wasn’t positive thinking; this was the power of God.  My friend didn’t have the capacity to think positively at that moment – he was too afraid.  But he was touched and reassured by the love and wisdom of God.

I took him back to the boarding house where he lived.  We had many conversations after that, and he often felt the healing power of God, and this changed his life for the better in many ways.

In the years since, I have found a beautiful definition of healing prayer in these words of Christian Science founder, Mary Baker Eddy: “True prayer is not asking God for love; it is learning to love and to include all mankind in one affection.”  I feel that was the kind of healing prayer my friend and I shared and felt that night.

You might think of prayer as a journey in understanding the relationship between an ever present, all-good God and His creation as the beneficiary of that all-powerful love and intelligence.  Enjoy the journey!

©2017 Christian Science Committee on Publication for Illinois

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Live on the air with Tony Lobl (COP, CS), divine Love, Hope and a suicide prevention testimony.

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“Clad in the panoply of Love, human hatred cannot reach you.”

Mary Baker Eddy.

“WAKE UP ON HOW TO TO CONNECT TO THAT GOODNESS AND LOVE.”

Mutual blessings – A SATURDAY THOUGHT (plus Florida talks and radio interview)

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Thank you for presenting CS in a non preachy way that will reach out and get more people interested in the power of divine Love.

I so needed this comforter in my life and wouldn’t have made it without it. But I had to claim it.  I now help others.

Tony, thank you for sharing your personal struggle with addiction and being victorious through CS.  I can relate to that belief of addiction.

I had the same battle but with alcohol and it has been over 4 years (not 3) since I left the alcohol behind with the help of CS, CS practitioners and CS teachers. I just stopped counting the years.

It was when I knew with my whole heart that I was loved unconditionally by God that I was able to “let go” of the alcohol.

But I could not find the “fellowship” at my branch church.  Regardless, God found a way for me.

So I “get it”.

I was also grateful for the radio announcer who saved the youth in the juvenile detention center from suicide.  Perhaps that is why God put him there.

“Feel the divine presence of Love.”

Thank you, God.

I plan on sharing this podcast to help and inspire others.

Keep reflecting back all that divine Love as we are clad in the”panoply of Love” which is impenetrable and has healing results in our life.

Truth, Wisdom, Love and Sincerity, to ALL Mankind.

Rob Scott
Oaxaca, Mexico

Photo below – It is not “Hope” that people get stuck in but “hopelessness”.  Perhaps some people just don’t understand the definition of  hope which is active and includes a “belief and expectation” that you can do it.  It is showing up for the hard work such as prayer.  It also leads to and is part of understanding.  You don’t just discount this “hope” when you get to understanding because you don’t need it anymore.  Remember, hope is a good thing and the major weapon against suicide.

“Hope” requires being willing to step forward without timidity or hesitation for what’s right by Laura Moliter.

Published on Aug 4, 2013

September 23rd, 2011. Was anybody really surprised that none of the pre-candidates sided with the soldier?  Where have all the leaders gone? Pampered hypocrites may ride on easy street here, but they can’t forever break the Golden Rule and escape the penalty due.  Perhaps the status quo became just too easy. Complacency has an expected end.

Captain Hill, you are not alone in your sincerity as right gives might.  Perhaps others could learn from this clip.  If the sincerity isn’t there then the message lacks power and will be shut out because it will never get through the people’s mental gate.  Perhaps this is most clearly seen by those speaking beyond their ability and demonstration.

 

e-inspire, April 20th

Updated April21, 2017 at 5:32 am

by Laura Moliter

Photos below & video not part of original e-insire

 

“…in your hearts set Christ apart as holy [and acknowledge Him] as Lord. Always be ready to give a logical defense to anyone who asks you to account for the hope that is in you, but do it courteously and respectfully.”

(I Peter 3: 15, Amplified Bible Classic Edition)

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We should be willing to share with others our inspired understanding of God and the Christ-Truth. We should be at the ready to give of that Spirit without timidity or hesitation.

If we are to do this, we must certainly begin with truly accepting that Christ within our hearts. We must consciously acknowledge and honestly feel the Truth from God that has come to set us free. We can’t go spreading a message of God’s grace from a point of insincerity, for it will not ring true or have any real power behind it.

If we are to share this healing reality we have come to see, we must let God, Love, guide us in this. We should indeed be ready with our “logical defense” of the hope that is in us. When that light is seen, we should be prepared to tell others about the Source of this light and to let them know of its universal availability. We can let that light within be a flame to share with another ready candle.

But let us remember to be respectful. The Truth of the Christ is that all mankind are God’s children and that they, as we, are already inspired, wise, blessed. So, we can share our joyous knowledge with others, not defensively, but with eagerness to unite with fellow children. And let’s not forget to pause and listen, trusting God to guide us in what to say and in when it is time to receive another’s heartfelt sharing with us.

Laura Moliter, Poetic and Powerful Living Coach


lauramoliter@gmail.com
www.poeticandpowerfulliving.com
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Back To The Future & A Second Chance – “I’m late for school!”

 

Rob,

P.s. I hope my mother prefers that I could be your assistant (I want to be) and once again thank you, you are the best English teacher I have ever had. 

Student

 

Video – “Back To The Future” – ‘I’m late for school!’

Published on Aug 29, 2012

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Diversity “makes us who we are,” Obama said at the 2017 School Counselor of the Year event in the East Room of the White House, where she hosted 50 school counselors and a slew of stars. “Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you don’t matter, or like you don’t have a place in our … story [or your church]. You do.”

First Lady Michelle Obama said at the 2017 School Counselor of the Year event in the East Room of the White House.

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…  hitch your wagon to something bigger than yourselves. This generation coming up – unselfish, altruistic, creative, patriotic – You’ll soon outnumber any of us, and I believe as a result that the future is in good hands. 

President Barack Obama’s farewell speech Tuesday night in Chicago, IL

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I feel that I am having a second chance to heal a time in my life back when I attended the developmental years of high school and college which was disrupted by my mother who ridiculed gay people or anybody she perceived to be gay.  That experience attempted to destroy my self esteem and only repressed feelings of homosexuality.  

My teacher during CS class instruction only contributed to these feelings of hopelessness by stating: “We don’t want gays and lesbians in our church” during the last day of class instruction.

But now this current experience has made me realize were are all unique and more alike than not.  This allowed me to see the sacredness in my students that I could see in myself at their age.  

The youth today are more accepting and compassionate of social issues such as marriage equality.

Perhaps this experience provided an opportunity to resolve this hardship and adversity by healing this wound from my youth.  

Amnesty International (What can I do?) + NPR – After Coming Out As Gay, A Russian Violinist’s New Reality

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What can I do?

Reports of ‘concentration camps’ and torture for gay men in Russia

Alexander Artmyev from Amnesty International spoke to Metro.co.uk. He said that people who are not in Russia can help by joining the charity’s Urgent Action on Chechnya.

The action encourages people to write in Russian or your own language to Chairman of the Investigation Committee and Acting Head of the Investigation Committee for the Chechen Republic.

Amnesty has also asked the letter, which should ask for an investigation and appeal for protection for LGBT individuals, to be copied into Human Rights groups and diplomatic missions from your country.

Reports of ‘concentration camps’ and torture for gay men in Russia

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Published on Apr 16, 2017

Artem Kolesov, 23, first violinist of the Chicago-based Yas Quartet, has been outraged by reports of gay oppression in Chechnya. So he decided to publish a video testament on being young, Russian and gay reported below by NPR.  Please share this video to get this message out to raise awareness and save lives.  You are not a mistake and you are not alone.

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After Coming Out As Gay, A Russian Violinist’s New Reality

Anastasia Tsioulcas

NPR.ORG

April 17, 2017 PM 12:26 ET

 

A 23-year-old, Russian-born violinist named Artem Kolesov is capturing international attention after posting a YouTube video in which he comes out as gay.

The son of two Pentecostal pastors in a small town an hour away from Moscow, Kolesov says that he has struggled for most of his life to reconcile his sexual orientation with his Christian beliefs and his family’s views. “In my family,” Kolesov says in his video, “I often heard that all gays should be destroyed, that they should be bombed, and that if anyone in our family turns out to be gay, my family should kill them with their bare hands.”

In the video, Kolesov also recounts wrenching episodes from throughout his life. At age seven, he prayed that he would die before his mother found out that he liked boys. He also endured physical and sexual abuse from one of his brothers, who threatened to out him to his parents if Kolesov told anyone about the abuse, and later attempted suicide several times.

Growing up, he says, “I never heard anything good about gay people. All I knew was that gays are the people who everyone should hate. I was scared because I knew that I was gay. I didn’t know anyone who I could talk to about it. It seemed that I was the only gay person in Russia.”

The violinist made his video as part of the Russian “Children-404” project, which invites teenagers to share their stories and discuss LGBT issues in Russia. In most of their photos and videos, participants shield their identities by holding up a “Children-404” sign in front of their faces.

Instead of creating an anonymous contribution, Kolesov chose to share his name and face, to let fellow LGBT youth in Russia feel less isolated. He recorded the video in Russian, but also provided English subtitles. “We don’t come out for heterosexual people to know,” he says in his video, which he published on March 29. “We don’t come out for the ones who hate us to know. We shout and make as much noise as possible just so other people like us who are scared and can’t be themselves would know that they are not a mistake and they are not alone.”

Formerly based in Canada, Kolesov now lives in Chicago, where he is first violinist in the Yas Quartet, which is in residence at Roosevelt University’s Chicago College of Performing Arts. Last summer, his ensemble took third prize in the Chamber Division at the Schoenfeld International String Competition which was held in Harbin, China.

Schoenfeld Competition YouTube

In his video, Kolesov contrasts his family’s pleasure in his musical accomplishments with their reaction to his coming out. “They are ashamed to have a gay son and brother,” he says. “They wish that this part of my identity didn’t exist. Interesting that my family is proud of me for being a violinist, and is so ashamed of me for being gay, though both of these are parts of my identity.”

In the aftermath of releasing his video, Kolesov told BuzzFeed that he’s already begun to experience the impact of his decision to come out so publicly. He has received many positive messages from friends and strangers alike, but he said that he is afraid of being arrested if he returns to Russia, under enforcement of a vaguely worded but broad “anti-gay propaganda” law. Earlier this month, there were reports that more than 100 gay men in Chechnya were arrested and tortured, with some of them reportedly killed by police. (Authorities have denied both the arrests and the deaths.)

Kolesov is also not currently on speaking terms with his relatives, and told BuzzFeed, “Even if I go back to Russia, I’m not sure I would be feeling completely safe with my own family.”

http://www.npr.org/sections/deceptivecadence/2017/04/17/524348587/after-coming-out-as-gay-a-russian-violinists-new-reality

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The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. - Edmund Burke

When everything is lost, how do you find you’re way back? – Collateral Beauty

 

Said Warner Bros. domestic distribution czar Jeff Goldstein this morning about the results of Collateral Beauty, “While I had hoped for stronger attendance this weekend, I’m hopeful audiences will discover this terrific film that’s well done and uplifting and has a great message of hope and connection.”

How Critics’ “Schoolyard Assault” On ‘Collateral Beauty’ Turned Ugly For Will Smith Pic

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COLLATERAL BEAUTY

When a successful New York advertising executive suffers a great tragedy he retreats from life. While his concerned friends try desperately to reconnect with him, he seeks answers from the universe by writing letters to Love, Time and Death. But it’s not until his notes bring unexpected personal responses that he begins to understand how these constants interlock in a life fully lived, and how even the deepest loss can reveal moments of meaning and beauty.

What is the meaning of collateral beauty?

 

“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens – Rumi”

There was a profound beauty and joy available to me when my father died, and it was something that I had difficulty explaining to others; especially my family who were in their own pain over his loss.

It’s as if the pain and the joy, the love and the loss existed as two sides of a coin that was spinning so fast I couldn’t tell one from the other.

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COLLATERAL BEAUTY

Where there is no beginning and end… that love doesn’t have to stop when life ends because death is just a symbolic beginning – for the ones left behind to live and love life. That in death, there is love.

Time is a concept. There is no beginning, no end. We only feel time when we feel it in our bodies. Time is set to measure existence. But really, what is time? Real time is when you interact with the people you love to create an impact, to live a life full of love, not even death can conquer.

Love transcends time, and death. And in death, there is love. And in time, there’s no death – if we are filled with love with the people we love who loves us back, unconditionally…

We are all connected.

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The meaning is simple, the damage of a child’s death is so dark and severe that a parent cannot see the full picture because of the tragedy. It may take a lifetime to understand that within that dark and ugly place there was a beauty and love there so strong that not even death could dishevel it ….that in fact, the beauty is that love continues even after and through death and the impact of that trauma brings us closer to the love that we shared for that person and all the ways love of that individual has affected our lives and the lives of others. The secondary beauty that has an everlasting ripple effect on other peoples lives and through eternity is what living is truly about. All about the quality and not so much the quantity. Life is a teacher and Love is the reward in all its forms. When we can see love where darkness used to reside we can finally turn our lives and those around us into something glorious.

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Collateral beauty consists of: Valuable property (memories, life experiences, actions that tie one person to another) owned by two people in their mutual experience of life. The two people unconsciously agree that upon the death of one or the other, this property, which has a value and a beauty all it’s own, becomes solely owned by the survivor of the relationship. The beauty of that relationship will cause much sadness and grief, almost overwhelming the survivor at times. However, as healing begins to replace grief, the beautiful parts of the relationship can be treasured and valued again. Look for that inner beauty, and hold tightly to it.

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Funny thing it is, I was really thinking about some topics of my life and I decided that even though so many things didn´t go the way I wanted them to, I could try and find beauty even in the things that made me sad.

Then, yesterday I watched the movie and they came up with this term that I had never heard before.

I thought about what I was thinking. Collateral beauty is the beauty that seems impossible to be seen. But it can turn to the best thing of life. When you forget about your goals and your ego and everything you´ve always wanted and fought for ( and didn´t get it) and think of the beauty of the things you actually have.

That we can still be fulfilled and happy with the way things are. In my humble opinion, it´s better than being angry or upset about the way things turned up. And so many other examples. The loved ones who left us, the job we lost, the car that broke, the neighbors yelling, the boring mother or crazy sister…….where is the beauty in all the things around? When we look at things as they are, not to punish us or to make us happy, but only what they are…..where is the beauty in every little thing?

Woulnd´t that be the biggest challenge of all?

Unfortunately, the movie puzzled me a little. I can´t say that I loved it, but I could see its collateral beauty since I got to find out an expression that can tell what I was feeling about life.

Live more for life and not so much for ourselves and our big egos.

Everything has its beauty.

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Hi, This is the title of Will Smith’s latest film.

There is no such thing as collateral beauty. Beauty is beauty.

But, if we look at it through the context of the movie, it seems to be the sum of the happiness which anybody has in their life. Its those moments of love, care which we cherish with our near & dear ones. Those moments and the people associated with them make our life a beautiful experience.

And, when we lose somebody whom we cherished so much, we tend to forget all other beautiful moments that we have or had.

Our life is a compilation of the good & bad moments which we go through. And life in itself is the sum of those moments. Its a collateral beauty.

Cheers!!

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Healing, Forgiving, Understanding and Never, Never Giving Up!

Truth, Wisdom, Love and Sincerity, to ALL Mankind,

Rob Scott, CS

English Teacher

Oaxaca, Mexico

Written 04/17/2017

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