When everything is lost, how do you find you’re way back? – Collateral Beauty


Said Warner Bros. domestic distribution czar Jeff Goldstein this morning about the results of Collateral Beauty, “While I had hoped for stronger attendance this weekend, I’m hopeful audiences will discover this terrific film that’s well done and uplifting and has a great message of hope and connection.”

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Published on Nov 10, 2016


When a successful New York advertising executive suffers a great tragedy he retreats from life. While his concerned friends try desperately to reconnect with him, he seeks answers from the universe by writing letters to Love, Time and Death. But it’s not until his notes bring unexpected personal responses that he begins to understand how these constants interlock in a life fully lived, and how even the deepest loss can reveal moments of meaning and beauty.

What is the meaning of collateral beauty?


“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens – Rumi”

There was a profound beauty and joy available to me when my father died, and it was something that I had difficulty explaining to others; especially my family who were in their own pain over his loss.

It’s as if the pain and the joy, the love and the loss existed as two sides of a coin that was spinning so fast I couldn’t tell one from the other.



Where there is no beginning and end… that love doesn’t have to stop when life ends because death is just a symbolic beginning – for the ones left behind to live and love life. That in death, there is love.

Time is a concept. There is no beginning, no end. We only feel time when we feel it in our bodies. Time is set to measure existence. But really, what is time? Real time is when you interact with the people you love to create an impact, to live a life full of love, not even death can conquer.

Love transcends time, and death. And in death, there is love. And in time, there’s no death – if we are filled with love with the people we love who loves us back, unconditionally…

We are all connected.


The meaning is simple, the damage of a child’s death is so dark and severe that a parent cannot see the full picture because of the tragedy. It may take a lifetime to understand that within that dark and ugly place there was a beauty and love there so strong that not even death could dishevel it ….that in fact, the beauty is that love continues even after and through death and the impact of that trauma brings us closer to the love that we shared for that person and all the ways love of that individual has affected our lives and the lives of others. The secondary beauty that has an everlasting ripple effect on other peoples lives and through eternity is what living is truly about. All about the quality and not so much the quantity. Life is a teacher and Love is the reward in all its forms. When we can see love where darkness used to reside we can finally turn our lives and those around us into something glorious.


Collateral beauty consists of: Valuable property (memories, life experiences, actions that tie one person to another) owned by two people in their mutual experience of life. The two people unconsciously agree that upon the death of one or the other, this property, which has a value and a beauty all it’s own, becomes solely owned by the survivor of the relationship. The beauty of that relationship will cause much sadness and grief, almost overwhelming the survivor at times. However, as healing begins to replace grief, the beautiful parts of the relationship can be treasured and valued again. Look for that inner beauty, and hold tightly to it.


Funny thing it is, I was really thinking about some topics of my life and I decided that even though so many things didn´t go the way I wanted them to, I could try and find beauty even in the things that made me sad.

Then, yesterday I watched the movie and they came up with this term that I had never heard before.

I thought about what I was thinking. Collateral beauty is the beauty that seems impossible to be seen. But it can turn to the best thing of life. When you forget about your goals and your ego and everything you´ve always wanted and fought for ( and didn´t get it) and think of the beauty of the things you actually have.

That we can still be fulfilled and happy with the way things are. In my humble opinion, it´s better than being angry or upset about the way things turned up. And so many other examples. The loved ones who left us, the job we lost, the car that broke, the neighbors yelling, the boring mother or crazy sister…….where is the beauty in all the things around? When we look at things as they are, not to punish us or to make us happy, but only what they are…..where is the beauty in every little thing?

Woulnd´t that be the biggest challenge of all?

Unfortunately, the movie puzzled me a little. I can´t say that I loved it, but I could see its collateral beauty since I got to find out an expression that can tell what I was feeling about life.

Live more for life and not so much for ourselves and our big egos.

Everything has its beauty.


Hi, This is the title of Will Smith’s latest film.

There is no such thing as collateral beauty. Beauty is beauty.

But, if we look at it through the context of the movie, it seems to be the sum of the happiness which anybody has in their life. Its those moments of love, care which we cherish with our near & dear ones. Those moments and the people associated with them make our life a beautiful experience.

And, when we lose somebody whom we cherished so much, we tend to forget all other beautiful moments that we have or had.

Our life is a compilation of the good & bad moments which we go through. And life in itself is the sum of those moments. Its a collateral beauty.



Healing, Forgiving, Understanding and Never, Never Giving Up!

Truth, Wisdom, Love and Sincerity, to ALL Mankind,

Rob Scott, CS

English Teacher

Oaxaca, Mexico

Written 04/17/2017





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